Time changes.... So do people...... and both change very fast....
We all meet some people on our journey of life; some of those some becomes friends, partners, buddies, but not all of those some remain the same for you forever.........
Feelings changes with the time, care flows away, you come last on the priority for those some... whom you had cared, believed them to be buddies of lifetime... The reasons could be any.. I was wondering about my title of the blog and was confused between... "Time changes and so do people" or "Distances make relationship distant"... finally i looked on to a broader perspective and couldn't resist writing a painful story of my friend who still griefs about his relationship on the verge of a collapse and couldn't fight back with time as it has changed everything for him and his companion.....
My friend didn't had a girl friend but he had a friend (ofcourse girl :) ) who was more than any relationship to him, he cared for her so much just as a wife could expect his husband to be.
They both shared every moment of their life....when you are having such a relationship you always EXPECT the same attention, love, care in return even if you think that you don't Expect. We are humans and we can't resist this idiotic feeling of EXPECTATION..... my friend always did things for her voluntarily and was so happy in listening to all the talks a GIRL speaks whole day :)
He just enjoyed every moment with her even if they were not in the same city as distances didn't matter then and GTALK and Cell phones (1 Re. all India calling) were means of keeping in close touch with your buddies. The time spent on phone for him was so much that he never thought of keeping his phone away from his ears, always fully charged and also carried extra calling cards in his wallet for any emergency. That was his way of defining the importance of his relationship with the girl, though he never said anything about her as a girlfriend of him and his thoughts were pure.
Then after 3 years of their distant relationship, a new turn came as the girl moved to another city where she found a company of friends and was so mingled with them that my friend was left behind visualizing his relationship staging away. This was not due to the distance they had between their cities coz the new city which the girl moved to also had the same calling rates : 1 Re/pm.... Still the distance of hearts can't be measured in any units and neither they could be avoided. My friend had lost a Companion, a Buddy, A friend just in the matter of moving cities or I should better say Time moved everything distant.
There was no problem, no fights, no EXPECTATION problems, no confusion between both of them. It was just TIME which made people change as the importance of one is bartered for another. New friends, new group made the girl so busy and contended in her own life that she really forgot my friend who was just completely dedicated to her attention, he didn't desire for any other friends as they were together from heart, separated from cities as he found a BUDDY in her........ The girl went for new friends and engrossed her life among them ONLY and now I don't see my friend talking to her on call, as he also left calling her after so many tries to remain in touch.
My friend told me once "Life is more than just meeting expectations, its about setting expectations". I thought for a while as that was hard to relate but he explained me.... "I like spending time with her, talking with her, doing things to please her, keeping her away from tensions and worries, caring for her and everything I could do to let ME be the same for her forever as she is my real buddy. Everything I did for her was not in return of anything from her......No expectations....No commitments..... But now when I don't find myself the same for her...then it seems something is wrong with me that made her leave me like this."
I was stunned at his humbleness and then realize that the girl went for other friends and kept avoiding his calls, never called him back, never showed time for him. All this happened just because 'Time changes and so do people'. She found new friends, partied out with them, talked only with them leaving her best Buddy alone without any reason.......
But I know the reason.....as I agree with an old saying "Time changes and so do people", the importance of one is at the cost of other. Changing Habits and Changing ourselves carry different meanings and have completely different aspects in one's life. Habits don't change your feelings and relationship with your buddy, but Time changes you and your relationship........
I could hmmm the lines of a song:
"Waqt ne kiyaa..... kya haseen sitam....
Hum rahe na hum.... tum rahe na tum.....
Waqt ne kiyaa....... "
Time changes and it is inevitable but the changing times should not change a Complete YOU !!!!
We all meet some people on our journey of life; some of those some becomes friends, partners, buddies, but not all of those some remain the same for you forever.........
Feelings changes with the time, care flows away, you come last on the priority for those some... whom you had cared, believed them to be buddies of lifetime... The reasons could be any.. I was wondering about my title of the blog and was confused between... "Time changes and so do people" or "Distances make relationship distant"... finally i looked on to a broader perspective and couldn't resist writing a painful story of my friend who still griefs about his relationship on the verge of a collapse and couldn't fight back with time as it has changed everything for him and his companion.....
My friend didn't had a girl friend but he had a friend (ofcourse girl :) ) who was more than any relationship to him, he cared for her so much just as a wife could expect his husband to be.
They both shared every moment of their life....when you are having such a relationship you always EXPECT the same attention, love, care in return even if you think that you don't Expect. We are humans and we can't resist this idiotic feeling of EXPECTATION..... my friend always did things for her voluntarily and was so happy in listening to all the talks a GIRL speaks whole day :)
He just enjoyed every moment with her even if they were not in the same city as distances didn't matter then and GTALK and Cell phones (1 Re. all India calling) were means of keeping in close touch with your buddies. The time spent on phone for him was so much that he never thought of keeping his phone away from his ears, always fully charged and also carried extra calling cards in his wallet for any emergency. That was his way of defining the importance of his relationship with the girl, though he never said anything about her as a girlfriend of him and his thoughts were pure.
Then after 3 years of their distant relationship, a new turn came as the girl moved to another city where she found a company of friends and was so mingled with them that my friend was left behind visualizing his relationship staging away. This was not due to the distance they had between their cities coz the new city which the girl moved to also had the same calling rates : 1 Re/pm.... Still the distance of hearts can't be measured in any units and neither they could be avoided. My friend had lost a Companion, a Buddy, A friend just in the matter of moving cities or I should better say Time moved everything distant.
There was no problem, no fights, no EXPECTATION problems, no confusion between both of them. It was just TIME which made people change as the importance of one is bartered for another. New friends, new group made the girl so busy and contended in her own life that she really forgot my friend who was just completely dedicated to her attention, he didn't desire for any other friends as they were together from heart, separated from cities as he found a BUDDY in her........ The girl went for new friends and engrossed her life among them ONLY and now I don't see my friend talking to her on call, as he also left calling her after so many tries to remain in touch.
My friend told me once "Life is more than just meeting expectations, its about setting expectations". I thought for a while as that was hard to relate but he explained me.... "I like spending time with her, talking with her, doing things to please her, keeping her away from tensions and worries, caring for her and everything I could do to let ME be the same for her forever as she is my real buddy. Everything I did for her was not in return of anything from her......No expectations....No commitments..... But now when I don't find myself the same for her...then it seems something is wrong with me that made her leave me like this."
I was stunned at his humbleness and then realize that the girl went for other friends and kept avoiding his calls, never called him back, never showed time for him. All this happened just because 'Time changes and so do people'. She found new friends, partied out with them, talked only with them leaving her best Buddy alone without any reason.......
But I know the reason.....as I agree with an old saying "Time changes and so do people", the importance of one is at the cost of other. Changing Habits and Changing ourselves carry different meanings and have completely different aspects in one's life. Habits don't change your feelings and relationship with your buddy, but Time changes you and your relationship........
I could hmmm the lines of a song:
"Waqt ne kiyaa..... kya haseen sitam....
Hum rahe na hum.... tum rahe na tum.....
Waqt ne kiyaa....... "
Time changes and it is inevitable but the changing times should not change a Complete YOU !!!!
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